Well, in a fairly unexpected turn of events, Dad passed away early Sunday morning. He had been out of the hospital for about a week and seemed to be recovering well. However, the combination of cancer, recovery from surgery, and other medical issues like diabetes and high blood pressure must have been too much for his body, and he passed away at home early Sunday morning.
I was fortunate to get a flight home Sunday evening and to have a wonderful support network here in Texas, in DC, and around the world who have helped make the process easier by helping where they can and alleviating some worries like cat-care, etc.
The econ course folks have also been wonderful and supportive of me being here at home where I need to be now, without worrying about the coursework.
My mom and I have both been in a bit of a daze but between the two of us and our wonderful support network, we’ve muddled through and are making progress on the laundry list of things to do before the visitation and funeral.
We’ve had such a wonderful outpouring of condolences from friends and family, and it’s been truly touching to hear how many people are thinking of us and to hear from so many people who cared about my dad and who were impacted by his life and work.
There’s still a lot to do and a lot to process, but we’re so fortunate to have so many people who care and are helping us through this difficult time.
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Well, Dad was discharged from the hospital on Saturday, which is good news. He has appointments lined up with the surgeon, the oncologist, and who knows who all else to go over the follow up on his surgery and to discuss options for chemo and/or radiation. And, he got some good news on Friday that the biopsies that they’d taken on his liver, nearby lymph nodes and other parts of his pancreas all came back negative, which is a good sign. So, we’ll see how things work out from there. I still wish I could be there to help out with things as he recovers, though.
My HHE came on Thursday and it went smoothly. All of the boxes were accounted for and so far no damage, though I still have a lot of boxes to unpack. It’s been amazing to sleep in my own bed, have my own couch, and just generally feel a bit more settled despite the unpacking to come. The diplocat is also enjoying climbing on and rummaging through the boxes.
The econ course continues to econ. It’s a lot of info to absorb and some days my eyes start to glaze over as my brain reaches its saturation point, but I’m learning a lot and keeping my head above water thus far. So, so far, so good. We’ll see if I still think that way later on, though.
I’ve also been fighting off a cold for the last week or so. It hasn’t been awful, but it’s been persistent and has interfered with sleep and generally feeling well. Friday evening, I almost had myself convinced to go to a clinic on Saturday, but I woke up feeling a lot better on Saturday, I think in part because the weather shifted from being damp and chilly to just chilly, without the dampness.
So, that’s what’s new here. Hope all’s well in the blogosphere.
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Well, Dad had surgery on Monday and they found that the tumor had invaded a major blood vessel and that it’s possible that the cancer has spread beyond the main tumor site to other parts of the pancreas. Since the tumor had invaded blood vessels, they couldn’t safely remove it without risking him bleeding out on the table, so they just closed him back up again. They’ll have the biopsy results back later this week to see whether it’s spread to other parts of the pancreas. Obviously, this isn’t good news.
He’s recovering from the surgery now and the next steps will depend somewhat on what they find with the biopsies. There may be some chemotherapy and radiation options that could reduce the size of the tumor to give him more time and possibly shrink it enough to make it operable.
So, we’ll see what the biopsy results say and what’s next. I’m glad he made it through the surgery ok, but bummed that they couldn’t remove it and still sad that I can’t be closer to home while this is going on.
In happier news, my HHE comes tomorrow. Yay for finally being able to sleep in my own bed! Woot! I’m sure that the Diplocat will also enjoy investigating the boxes. 🙂
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Well, this last week and a half has been a doozy. It’s reminded me of a refrigerator magnet I once saw that said “I try to take one day at a time, but some times several days attack me at once.”
The promotion lists came out on Wednesday and unfortunately, I didn’t get promoted. I can look around and see that I’m in some very good company with some excellent colleagues from my A-100 class and from Ciudad Juarez, and I think it’s likely in part due to the much lower promotion rates now than a few years ago due to the hiring surge. It still stings, especially after taking one for the team and going to Ciudad Juarez at the height of the violence and doing good work there. But, since I can look around and see that I’ve got a lot of good company and it was rough going for a lot of people, I feel a little less bummed.
That news came less than a week after I got another, and honestly much more serious, piece of bad news. Last Thursday, I found out that my dad has pancreatic cancer. Cancer is never good, but some are more treatable and less aggressive than others. Pancreatic cancer, unfortunately, falls in the less treatable and more aggressive category. From his scans, the tumor likely can be removed with surgery, but it’s a difficult operation involving multiple organs and a long recovery, and it’s still possible that they could find something that didn’t show up on the scans when they perform the surgery. Even if things go as well as can be expected and they’re able to remove the entire tumor with surgery, the five-year survival rates for pancreatic cancer are still a lot lower than many other types of cancer.
So, it’s rough news. I’m scared that he might not make it through the surgery and that he might not have much time left, even if everything goes very smoothly with the surgery. It hurts to be so far away from my parents as they’re going through this. I wish I could be closer to help with things and spend time with them. But, I have a job that keeps me in DC. At least I’m close enough that I’ll be able to go home for holidays, and will be able to make it home relatively quickly if the need arises. Still, it does make me wish that I could live a little closer to home, at least for a while.
As a result of all of this, I’ve just wanted to hide under the covers and pretend that the last week and a half never happened. Here’s hoping there’s no more bad news for awhile.
Filed under Austin, Cancer, Ciudad Juarez, EER, Family, FS Life, FSI, Holidays, Home, Homesick, Mexico, Paperwork, Texas, Washington DC